Find Your Next Right Move
Yesterday was a bit overwhelming, I can admit that today. Not the day before, just yesterday. I had tons of urgent and intense issues on my plate and I didn’t have a clue as to how to “fix” them. I awakened with a sense of peace, I took a deep inhalation breath in and before I could exhale, worry, fret, and anxiety appeared. There are bills to pay, content to plan, part time job to work, and a “real “ job to look for and so much more. I don’t know about you, but sometimes responsibility sucks and it can really kick butt! I struggled with the idea of stillness to figure it all out, for I feared it would just be a waste of time.
So I did what I thought I’d never do. I not only said that I was overwhelmed out loud, but I asked for help. I first told my adult daughters that it really wasn’t a good day, they immediately asked why and begin to reassure me that things were going to get better. My youngest ran me a bath (i didn’t want to bathe) laid out my clothes and sat in the bathroom and talked to me about general things. They took me out of the house and said, this should help you feel better, and it did! Then came my next move…
I sent a text to my best friend Harriet and it simply said “HELP! Not a good day! I’m trying to push through, I’m overwhelmed and trying to figure things out.” She contacted me and said, “I know if you’re asking for help, you’re at the end of your rope, what’s going on baby, do I need to come out and see you, because I will.” Just hearing that made me feel better. I explained to her that I felt like a failure, she went on to say, “Don’t let this take you down, the devil will make you think that you’re not moving forward, but you are, you are NOT a failure!”
I tinkered around, thinking of different ways and angles to tackle this financial challenge that I was facing. I refused to still my mind and spirit. By the end of the night, I had a wonderful conversation with a close friend. Whenever we talk it’s always uplifting and encouraging and we literally can go on for hours! We talked about children, entrepreneurship, life, and gratefulness. At the end, she said to me “I listen to OU everyday and it encourages me,” I had no idea that OU was Oprah University lol. She encouraged me to listen to her motivational speeches. Our conversation ended well after 1 a.m., but i decided to listen anyway. As God would have it, the first one started out with Oprah saying “The way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself what is the next right move, not think about, I have ALL of this to do. Do not be overwhelmed by it, your life is more than just that moment.” That was an AHA! moment for me. I’ve always prioritized but when challenges come, I tend to put them all in a line and laterally handle them all, I become overwhelmed and my body, mind and spirit is affected.
I awakened today determined to move forward, and I did. I took some time to be still, found my NEXT RIGHT MOVE, and then found my next right move and then my next with very little room for being overwhelmed.
Are you a mom facing many challenges all at once, felling a bit overwhelmed, try this if you are:
Say it out loud to yourself
Tell a trustworthy friend
Seek out and listen to inspiration
Find your next right move and do it